Does Love Make Us Happy?

When we stop to consider Does Love Make Us Happy; the answer to this is two-fold.  Yes love can make us happy but it can also make us sad.  Love in itself cannot bring us happiness unless we love ourselves and know that we must be the author of our own happiness.  It is not the love of another individual that cures all.

Being in love or having someone to love us is a wonderful thing but if we depend upon this person's love to cure all of our ills; we will at some point have a great awakening.  People fail us, they fall out of love sometimes and go in different directions.  You might say; well it wasn't love then and you could be right but that is why first we must make sure we "love ourselves" enough to keep our life on track without the love of anyone else.  Loving ourselves means that we like who we are.  We may need some improvement but we are doing the best we can and we do not need another person to make us whole.  We know that being dependent upon any other soul for everything just might take our life away; so we plant our own garden and do not wait for someone to bring us flower.  We endure and we preserve our faith within our own heart.

We learn in the scriptures that the two become one when marriage vows are spoken. Even in marriage love can fade or people can be caught up in situations which makes them think another path is what they need.  It is never easy in a marriage to let go of someone whom we have loved for a long period of time and we "thought" they had the same love.  When these kinds of things happen; we must then still "love ourselves" enough to keep our chin up; keep on walking, tall and straight, knowing that live is still worth living and we have the right to be happy.  This is when we learn that "love within itself" does not totally make us happy.  We can survive without a companion to love us.  We can survive without a friend walking by our side and we can survive if the it seems the whole world doesn't know we exist.  We can, we can, we can!  

This kind of thought will bring us out of the gloom of not having someone dear to love us.  We must keep loving ourselves and life.  It can always be worse...most of us can vouch for that.  No matter how many times we lose at love; there is still hope to find it again but we learn with each goodbye that we really do have self worth and that we must keep on loving ourselves.

"You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy."  Author unknown

"Love doesn't make the world go round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile." -- Franklin P. Jones

"You can give without love, but you can love without giving." -- Love quotes

"If we depend upon another human to sustain us; we might get disappointed when they can't. If we depend upon ourselves; we know we can live through anything." --me