When we stop to consider Does Love Make Us Happy; the answer to this is two-fold. Yes love can make us happy but it can also make us sad. Love in itself cannot bring us happiness unless we love ourselves and know that we must be the author of our own happiness. It is not the love of another individual that cures all.
Being in love or having someone to love us is a wonderful thing but if we depend upon this person's love to cure all of our ills; we will at some point have a great awakening. People fail us, they fall out of love sometimes and go in different directions. You might say; well it wasn't love then and you could be right but that is why first we must make sure we "love ourselves" enough to keep our life on track without the love of anyone else. Loving ourselves means that we like who we are. We may need some improvement but we are doing the best we can and we do not need another person to make us whole. We know that being dependent upon any other soul for everything just might take our life away; so we plant our own garden and do not wait for someone to bring us flower. We endure and we preserve our faith within our own heart.
We learn in the scriptures that the two become one when marriage vows are spoken. Even in marriage love can fade or people can be caught up in situations which makes them think another path is what they need. It is never easy in a marriage to let go of someone whom we have loved for a long period of time and we "thought" they had the same love. When these kinds of things happen; we must then still "love ourselves" enough to keep our chin up; keep on walking, tall and straight, knowing that live is still worth living and we have the right to be happy. This is when we learn that "love within itself" does not totally make us happy. We can survive without a companion to love us. We can survive without a friend walking by our side and we can survive if the it seems the whole world doesn't know we exist. We can, we can, we can!
This kind of thought will bring us out of the gloom of not having someone dear to love us. We must keep loving ourselves and life. It can always be worse...most of us can vouch for that. No matter how many times we lose at love; there is still hope to find it again but we learn with each goodbye that we really do have self worth and that we must keep on loving ourselves.
"You must love yourself before you love another. By accepting yourself and fully being what you are, your simple presence can make others happy." Author unknown
"Love doesn't make the world go round; love is what makes the ride worthwhile." -- Franklin P. Jones
"You can give without love, but you can love without giving." -- Love quotes
"If we depend upon another human to sustain us; we might get disappointed when they can't. If we depend upon ourselves; we know we can live through anything." --me
Tuesday, September 28, 2010
Actions of Love
What are Actions of Love? Most of us have experienced Actions of Love as a child or tough love from our parents. When we were kids many times our parents gave of Actions of Love to help us grow into adults with the needed wisdom to sustain life. They taught us that if we disobey; we must accept the consequences of our actions and not try to blame our sibling. They taught us that being is good will in the long term give us good things and being bad or disobedient, will bring us what we don't want. Punishment of some kind, discipline we wish we did not have to experience.
We had to be taught how to live, love and care about others. We were disciplined when we were greedy, misbehaved or just plain naughty. We were taught to respect, honor and obey. We had to learn that life does not give us anything but we all have opportunity to work, learn and grow. We learned early on that we must work hard for what we have and that life is filled with the unknown and there is not anyone who doesn't experience difficult times. We had to learn that we can't have everything we want or desire and that we must make the best of what we have. What went wrong with some of us?
Actions of love; sometimes called tough love, is part of growing into adulthood with the right ideas about how to life a successful life and if we have not; we have missed out on the most essential part of life lessons. If we have not been taught the basics of life or have not heeded to those principles; our life will more than likely be very difficult. Why? Because the basics are that we must have compassion for others, be willing to share life's blessing, and promote others instead of being jealous. We must have learned that no one has it all. Not even the most wealthy. You might note that the rich seem to miss knowing what real happiness is. They get caught up in their ability to have what they want, go where they please and are never satisfied with anything for long. That is not truly living...not really.
We would never be worth anything great without learning that we must sometimes feel deprived, we learn that everything we want just might not be what we need. We should have learned that a man/women's character is worth more than the money that is in the bank. We should have learned that integrity is by far the ultimate quality to obtain respect and admiration in the work place.
All Actions of Love, tough love are when our parents told us no when it made us so mad we could bite a nail into. Actions of Love in adulthood are when life itself says no; that is not what you need. All of our plans are going to work out like we want...it is for our good most of the time. We want what we think we want without consideration of the consequences a lot of the time and then....we forget that we must accept responsibility for our actions always. We don't like it...but that is God's tough love.
We had to be taught how to live, love and care about others. We were disciplined when we were greedy, misbehaved or just plain naughty. We were taught to respect, honor and obey. We had to learn that life does not give us anything but we all have opportunity to work, learn and grow. We learned early on that we must work hard for what we have and that life is filled with the unknown and there is not anyone who doesn't experience difficult times. We had to learn that we can't have everything we want or desire and that we must make the best of what we have. What went wrong with some of us?
Actions of love; sometimes called tough love, is part of growing into adulthood with the right ideas about how to life a successful life and if we have not; we have missed out on the most essential part of life lessons. If we have not been taught the basics of life or have not heeded to those principles; our life will more than likely be very difficult. Why? Because the basics are that we must have compassion for others, be willing to share life's blessing, and promote others instead of being jealous. We must have learned that no one has it all. Not even the most wealthy. You might note that the rich seem to miss knowing what real happiness is. They get caught up in their ability to have what they want, go where they please and are never satisfied with anything for long. That is not truly living...not really.
We would never be worth anything great without learning that we must sometimes feel deprived, we learn that everything we want just might not be what we need. We should have learned that a man/women's character is worth more than the money that is in the bank. We should have learned that integrity is by far the ultimate quality to obtain respect and admiration in the work place.
All Actions of Love, tough love are when our parents told us no when it made us so mad we could bite a nail into. Actions of Love in adulthood are when life itself says no; that is not what you need. All of our plans are going to work out like we want...it is for our good most of the time. We want what we think we want without consideration of the consequences a lot of the time and then....we forget that we must accept responsibility for our actions always. We don't like it...but that is God's tough love.
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